Just trying to get the most out of life by figuring it out
...it's people I hate
Published on May 19, 2008 By So Many Questions In Life Journals

I'm a lover of life. I see the beauty in it. I appreciate the little things.

It's people I dislike.

I've said it time & time again, and here I go again...but why do people suck?

 

I have come to find that with each passing year, I find the majority of people to be less and less genuine and less and less trustworthy. I'm starting to get to the point where I wonder how people can be so obnoxious and still be in existence? Is there no one genuine left in this world?

People are simply ridiculous. It seems you cannot trust anyone because the moment you do, they will turn around and stab you in the back...or sometimes right in the chest and be perfectly fine with it. How do people just walk around doing that? I am a damn good friend, and that is something I have always been proud of. And for that reason I expect the same thing out of my friends. Out of people, in general. I've spent too many years trying to put those people who are fake and selfish into a box and filter them out from the "good" ones. Thing is, that F & S box got so big that I eventually realized there is no box, it's just a huge generalization that seems to apply in every single case. How can everyone be like that?

Now I'm not saying that I'm perfect & never do anything wrong, but unlike most people, I get it. I have a conscience and anyone who knows me knows that I am a genuine girl. I am straight up, but still have a deep level of consideration and insight. Maybe that's why it seems so obvious to me, but I just don't understand how people can be such chumps. It's bringing me down more and more and is starting to turn me into a mean, I hate the world, type of a person, which is the furthest thing from what I naturally am.

 

How do you avoid getting so jaded? And how can people suck so much?


Comments
on May 19, 2008

I read an article yesterday on intimacy...(not sex)...and here's the bad news...if you think most people are untrustworthy, or that they're destined to hurt ya....you likely won't have many intimate relationships.


So here's something to think about....How good a friend can you really be to someone if you believe deep down that..


 the majority of people to be less and less genuine and less and less trustworthy.


It's food for thought.


 

on May 21, 2008
Nothing much you can do about other people. You just have to be the best person you can be. Most people, who are genuine and have been hurt, are cautious, so they might keep a low profile or not very open at once. It takes a while for people's true nature to come out.

I suspect that those untrustworthy types are also those who have absolutely no faith in others. It's why they don't feel anything when they lie and trick, and backstab. They think that everyone else is like that: so it's better to be the doer than the one being done to. So, be careful.



on May 28, 2008

You guys are both right. Those are great comments. Problem is I don't really hate people. I just get frustrated when people seem to disappoint again and again in life. I feel like I do the opposite of have no faith in others...I actually place too much faith in them. Perhaps that's my issue but I don't quite know how to change that. I ultimately believe that everyone has so much potential to be amazing and I just don't understand why people wouldn't strive to be as classy as possibly in life. I feel like that's what I try to live my life by as much as possible and I would think that others would too...but I guess I have to realize that everyone has a different reason for living, right?

I appreciate your comments. Thanks for them!

Tova, I especially enjoyed your comment that if I assume most people are destined to hurt me, intimate relationships are out of the question. I definitely seem to have that problem when it comes to love relationships and am struggling to find a way out of it!!

on May 28, 2008
Tova, I especially enjoyed your comment that if I assume most people are destined to hurt me, intimate relationships are out of the question. I definitely seem to have that problem when it comes to love relationships and am struggling to find a way out of it!!


You and me both.  

There are several books out on intimacy....and some websites...they can help give you insight.

Good luck!