Just trying to get the most out of life by figuring it out
Published on February 16, 2006 By So Many Questions In Blogging
Time and time again I've found that the thing that hurts me the most is that I feel like I have a one-way relationship with most people. I listen to them, help them, care for them. In return, I get a lot of "laters." I am fairly closed to begin with. I have a hard time telling people problems or telling them personal things about myself. The times I have tried, I have been unsuccessful in that I have received a whole lot of "I don't know what to say" or "Awee...I'm sorry" or "Don't worry about it" or "Anyways, back to me." Really, this doesn't help to chip my wall down in the least bit. Even here on JoeUser, I sometimes feel that admitting something or writing a heart felt blog is pointless because apparently unless you're in the "In" crowd here, people don't care enough to read or respond to your blogs.
There are those people who seem to really gain my trust in that I should be able to tell them something, and the minute I try, they blow it all over...within seconds I mean. This includes anyone from my best friends, friends I've just started getting closer to, parents, or strangers. Is it really that difficult to get someone to listen to you and just respond thoughtfully for once? Especially when they come to me all the time expecting an understanding, which I take the time to offer almost always.

Ironically, I really do live on a one way street.

on Feb 16, 2006
The first thing I noticed about this post is that "you're doing all these things for others" and then feeling let down by them, like they don't
Having expectations, expecting people to be as nice as you are is fruitless. We teach people how to treat us.
When people really care about you they "MAKE TIME for you and listen, if they're not giving us advice that's a GOOD thing.
A long-time friend knows when to say something to help versus telling us what to do.

Then again people that say "don't worry about it" are doing nothing more than telling us to how to feel or in this case, to not feel.
If a person says "Awww, I"m sorry" chances are they are feeling bad for you and maybe don't have an idea of how to help.

About JU community, it does take time to become known here and form bonds. I doubt if anyone walks in and right away has lots of
comments and buddies. One way to get known and meet others is to visit their blogs, leave comments, and then they'll come visit you.
Some JUsers are better than others at responding to comments, some people here haven't ever responded to my comments, so I don't go back and visit there.
About life, it takes TIME to form lasting relationships. If someone doesn't take the time to listen to you, then why bother with them?
There's someone out here who will listen and respond, from my experience ( I'm 58) relationships have to be a two-way street!

P.S. The people you refer to as giving you a lot of "laters" well they're users. Hope it gets better for you.